Tonight was my first time...first time on a set-up that is...
My friend took me out tonight to introduce me to her friend's friend. He is the perfect guy on paper. Chinese, great career credentials, sociable, and pretty good looking. Now why did i go on this set-up? Let's call it investigative dating.
So I went on this blind date:
1) to see if what caucasian women and I find attractive in Asian guys is the same (it was 2 caucasian girls orchestrating this whole affair)
2) to meet the man behind the credentials (he had some very impressive credentials - and for me to admit that, they are impressive.)
3) to find out my own reaction to this type of awkward situation
4) to live to tell others about this genre of human interaction
1) My professional un-biased assessment of his physical appearance: he is good-looking in the perfect sort of way. Tall, large round eyes, tall nose, nice smile, clean-cut. Very friendly and relaxed. Now for my personal and unprofessional assessment: He was a little too perfect and lacked that sexy bad boy attractiveness. I am very intrigued to discover that Caucasian women have the same general criteria as Asian women do for their men - round eyes, tall nose, yada-yada. Of course, my study contains a sample of 2 Caucasian women...so I wouldn't think this to be very scientific findings at all...but still blog worthy...n'est-ce-pas? Anyways, the point being that he gets my "ok" for his physical appearance. Now on to the next...
2) The man behind the credentials - surprisingly, he didn't have the cocky attitude I expected him to have. Except for his little 2 second boasting about kicking his friend's ass in chess...he was quite humble and an all around nice dude. I was a little disappointed that he wasn't a little more exciting. However, perhaps it is because I lack the ability to appreciate the finer things in life - like chess. Not to rag on the chess thing cause I do equally "geeky" things like read up on economics on my spare time...but he could have at least topped the chess story off with a "swimming in the Red Sea" story.
3) Now to evaluate myself as objectively as possible...My demeanor was lacking. I possibly came across as very unfriendly and uninterested. While the latter is correct for i was un-entertained, the former would not be accurate. My shyness has a tendency to be misunderstood as coldness. My Ice Princess personality does tend to surface as a response mechanism to uncertain and potentially vulnerable situations...and those of you who know me well, know how much i love to be vulnerable...All in all, I wasn't my usual shiny self. So now I know that i am not in my element during blind date situations.
4) I survived the blind date now would I recommend it? While I did not have a mind-blowing experience, I did enjoy myself and met a good person in the process. I would see him again but I would position it as a friendly get-together rather than as a date. I don't think I'll be going on a blind-date (group date or one-on-one) for a long time! I can now safely say that set-ups are not for me. I didn't like the fact that it wasn't chemistry pushing us to introduce ourselves to one another.
In my opinion, I think it is important to do things out of the ordinary to get the most out of living. So I think it was a worthwhile single experience.
My friend took me out tonight to introduce me to her friend's friend. He is the perfect guy on paper. Chinese, great career credentials, sociable, and pretty good looking. Now why did i go on this set-up? Let's call it investigative dating.
So I went on this blind date:
1) to see if what caucasian women and I find attractive in Asian guys is the same (it was 2 caucasian girls orchestrating this whole affair)
2) to meet the man behind the credentials (he had some very impressive credentials - and for me to admit that, they are impressive.)
3) to find out my own reaction to this type of awkward situation
4) to live to tell others about this genre of human interaction
1) My professional un-biased assessment of his physical appearance: he is good-looking in the perfect sort of way. Tall, large round eyes, tall nose, nice smile, clean-cut. Very friendly and relaxed. Now for my personal and unprofessional assessment: He was a little too perfect and lacked that sexy bad boy attractiveness. I am very intrigued to discover that Caucasian women have the same general criteria as Asian women do for their men - round eyes, tall nose, yada-yada. Of course, my study contains a sample of 2 Caucasian women...so I wouldn't think this to be very scientific findings at all...but still blog worthy...n'est-ce-pas? Anyways, the point being that he gets my "ok" for his physical appearance. Now on to the next...
2) The man behind the credentials - surprisingly, he didn't have the cocky attitude I expected him to have. Except for his little 2 second boasting about kicking his friend's ass in chess...he was quite humble and an all around nice dude. I was a little disappointed that he wasn't a little more exciting. However, perhaps it is because I lack the ability to appreciate the finer things in life - like chess. Not to rag on the chess thing cause I do equally "geeky" things like read up on economics on my spare time...but he could have at least topped the chess story off with a "swimming in the Red Sea" story.
3) Now to evaluate myself as objectively as possible...My demeanor was lacking. I possibly came across as very unfriendly and uninterested. While the latter is correct for i was un-entertained, the former would not be accurate. My shyness has a tendency to be misunderstood as coldness. My Ice Princess personality does tend to surface as a response mechanism to uncertain and potentially vulnerable situations...and those of you who know me well, know how much i love to be vulnerable...All in all, I wasn't my usual shiny self. So now I know that i am not in my element during blind date situations.
4) I survived the blind date now would I recommend it? While I did not have a mind-blowing experience, I did enjoy myself and met a good person in the process. I would see him again but I would position it as a friendly get-together rather than as a date. I don't think I'll be going on a blind-date (group date or one-on-one) for a long time! I can now safely say that set-ups are not for me. I didn't like the fact that it wasn't chemistry pushing us to introduce ourselves to one another.
In my opinion, I think it is important to do things out of the ordinary to get the most out of living. So I think it was a worthwhile single experience.
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