The downside to being the Mrs. MD.
This post has nothing to do with my husband and everything to do with how I feel as the wife of a future doctor.
It seems perfect to marry someone who will one day soon be a doctor. Doctors are known to make a great living and they save lives. What more can a girl ask for? It is our modern day version of the hero - to be well provided for and to be associated to someone who is well respected. But let me tell you, after almost being married for 3 years to a med student, I am fully aware of both sides to this glamourous tale.
Dear reader, let me introduce you to the downside:
1. Doctors overshadow their significant others. "oh thank goodness you married a doctor so you don't have to worry about money" says a close friend. "why are you working so hard? just have babies - you are married to a doctor", says another. I never get completely offended because I know that people have the best intentions when they say this sort of stuff. However, it does completely discount the fact that I have a great career. It also discounts the fact - the small possibility that perhaps, I also make a decent living and want to spend my own hard earned money? When people find out you are married to a Doctor, your life becomes significantly less interesting and less important.
2. The many many lost weekends sacrificed to studying. Since we have been married, I can only count a small handful of weekends where we could spend both Saturday and Sunday together. Most spare moments on his part are devoted to studying. While I admire his resiliance and really support the notion that doctors really should learn their stuff and not "wing it", I have also grown accustomed to making my own plans to fill up my weekends.
3. If I thought that the studying was bad, it got way worse once he started his clerkship. 2 out of 3 weekends are either spent on-call or on evening/night shift. It breaks my heart when I see him go for 24 hour calls. Not because I won't see him for 24 hours but because it is gruelling and I hate to see my husband suffer. But I also have to admit that I have gone to more weddings and parties alone this year than ever before.
4. I lost the right to vent to friends because I have the perfect life since I am married to a Doctor. People have way less empathy for you when they know you are married to a Doctor. It gives this great big illusion that life is perfect.
I know that i probably sound like an ungrateful child right now, but it is probably due to the fact that I am big time grumpy. I barely saw my husband this weekend and have to send him an email to keep him updated with my life.
This post has nothing to do with my husband and everything to do with how I feel as the wife of a future doctor.
It seems perfect to marry someone who will one day soon be a doctor. Doctors are known to make a great living and they save lives. What more can a girl ask for? It is our modern day version of the hero - to be well provided for and to be associated to someone who is well respected. But let me tell you, after almost being married for 3 years to a med student, I am fully aware of both sides to this glamourous tale.
Dear reader, let me introduce you to the downside:
1. Doctors overshadow their significant others. "oh thank goodness you married a doctor so you don't have to worry about money" says a close friend. "why are you working so hard? just have babies - you are married to a doctor", says another. I never get completely offended because I know that people have the best intentions when they say this sort of stuff. However, it does completely discount the fact that I have a great career. It also discounts the fact - the small possibility that perhaps, I also make a decent living and want to spend my own hard earned money? When people find out you are married to a Doctor, your life becomes significantly less interesting and less important.
2. The many many lost weekends sacrificed to studying. Since we have been married, I can only count a small handful of weekends where we could spend both Saturday and Sunday together. Most spare moments on his part are devoted to studying. While I admire his resiliance and really support the notion that doctors really should learn their stuff and not "wing it", I have also grown accustomed to making my own plans to fill up my weekends.
3. If I thought that the studying was bad, it got way worse once he started his clerkship. 2 out of 3 weekends are either spent on-call or on evening/night shift. It breaks my heart when I see him go for 24 hour calls. Not because I won't see him for 24 hours but because it is gruelling and I hate to see my husband suffer. But I also have to admit that I have gone to more weddings and parties alone this year than ever before.
4. I lost the right to vent to friends because I have the perfect life since I am married to a Doctor. People have way less empathy for you when they know you are married to a Doctor. It gives this great big illusion that life is perfect.
I know that i probably sound like an ungrateful child right now, but it is probably due to the fact that I am big time grumpy. I barely saw my husband this weekend and have to send him an email to keep him updated with my life.
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